A boundary is a request with a consequence, and boundaries come into play when there are people in your life who you love who do things that don’t align with your values. When you are clean with what you want and who you want to be in the world, it’s easy to love other people even if they’re making decisions you wouldn’t make for yourself.

What you’ll learn from this episode:

  1.  A boundary is a request with a consequence.
  2. Boundaries come into play when there are people in your life who you love who do things that don’t align with your values.
  3. The better you are at holding the consequence/boundary for yourself, the freer you are to love them.
  4. I want to invite you to play with this in your brain this week: Can you look at who someone is in the world and say, “I love you no matter what, and I choose xxx in my life. Because of the choices you’re making, those choices are probably not going to allow you to be in this part of my life. That’s the choice I’m making for me. I love you. I’m not fearful. I feel peace.”
  5. As soon as we think we know what is right for ourselves, we start to judge what others are doing.
  6. There’s nothing tethering you to another person’s decisions other than your judgement of those decisions. When you can release that and just love who they are and allow them to choose what they want to choose, then you get to choose what you want to choose.

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