What are You Hiding Under that Fear?

What are You Hiding Under that Fear?

What is hiding underneath your fear of changing? I've watched so many of my clients wrangle with their fear around change. So they stay in awful jobs. Work with awful people. They stay in horrible marriages. They are lonely, unhappy, joyless... And yet, they have this...

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Choosing Thoughts on Purpose

Choosing Thoughts on Purpose

Most of us believe what we believe unconsciously. We've believed what we believe for so long that we think out thoughts are the truth. This is all find and good, until we realize we believe thoughts that are hurtful. We believe we aren't good enough. We aren't happy...

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Practice Wanting

Practice Wanting

Practice wanting. Practice really feeeeeling what it would be like to have what you want. It can be anything... there are no rules. Except for one. Your wants are for you. Your behavior. Your experiences. Your emotions. Your things. It is wasted energy to want other...

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Perfect is a Judgement not an Outcome

Perfect is a Judgement not an Outcome

Perfection isn't real. It's a lie. It's a judgement. It's a story. But it isn't real. That doesn't mean it can't hurt or shame or embarrass. We all fail. We all make mistakes. We all forget. We all miss stuff. It's part of being human. There is no perfection. There is...

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It’s Complicated

It’s Complicated

"My situation really is complicated." Not really. I'm not sure why, but we like our problems to be complex and difficult to solve. The more complex, the harder it is to solve. If we can't solve our problems, then we don't have to do anything hard to resolve them. We...

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What is Relentless?

What is Relentless?

Relentless is a mindset. It is a way of choosing to think about your experience and who you want to be in it. Each day we either choose to tap relentlessness or we choose to abdicate. There's not right or wrong. There is just choice. Relentless for me is: Choosing to...

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My Laundry

My Laundry

We have someone who helps around the house a few days a week. She's amazing. Lately, I've noticed that everyone else in the family is getting their laundry done, but mine sits. You must understand. I-hate-laundry. Our laundry room is my least favorite, most...

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Be the Verb

Be the Verb

"Lots of people want to be the noun without doing the verb." When I first heard it, this quote struck me. Powerfully. I realized how it applies to so many of us. For years, I wanted to be a published author. But I didn't want to write. For years I wanted to be a...

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New Beginnings

New Beginnings

New Year. New Beginnings. As we think about the year to come, let's not forget that we aren't really starting over. We aren't really 'beginning'... we are building. Adding. Contributing to... A life. The Year is New. But the life, is ongoing. And with each passing...

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Failure

Failure

I see you there, Failure. How you trick us into avoiding you. How you make us afraid of you. How you want us to believe we should hide and protect ourselves from you... no-matter-what. I see how you want us to settle and to avoid risk. But I also see how much we truly...

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